Stars

You’re like one of those stars in this dark night—so mesmerizing, I could stare at you the entire night. Your twinkles are so captivating, I can’t seem to look away. But you are so far away, it’s kind of sad to think that I no matter how hard I try, no matter how far I go, I just can’t get to you.

Your light is beautiful yet cold. I can see you, but you’re out of reach.

Loving you is dangerous journey—almost close to impossible. Yet letting you go is just as the same. So I’m just going to love you from this distance, hoping that one day you will fall. I’ll be there to catch you.

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It’s Not Always Your Fault

 

My parents and judo coaches taught me well. When you’re at fault, have the courage to own up to it and make amends. Apologize, and try to right your wrong.

That’s how I lived my life, to the point that I take blame for things I have not done. Somehow, I felt responsible for everything, from the little things that my brother finds annoying to me to the fact that I don’t have anyone.

And it’s my nature, I guess to keep on adjusting and to stay silent and to change. I keep on morphing into different beings just so I’ll be accepted. And it’s tiring. Somehow I created different versions of me to the point that I lost track of who I really am.

I looked at myself in the mirror and asked if I was happy. I wasn’t. I am not living my life. I am living how other people want me to live.

Sometimes you cannot control how others think of you and if you keep on changing so you’ll be accepted by one person, then you lose yourself. Not everyone will like you and that’s a fact. Some just can’t accept the way you are.

And that’s okay. Whether it’s a family member, a co-worker even a lover, that’s fine.

You just have to remember what you really want, who you want to be. Because it is your duty to live. You need to know that one day, you will wake up and look back, and have no regrets on how you lived your life.

And if they can’t accept you, then perhaps it’s time to move forward and leave them behind. Perhaps seeing them every day of the week is not necessary. They’ll be that person who you only see during family reunions or on Facebook.

And perhaps that is fine. Perhaps you need to cut some ties, just so you can move forward.

#MeToo

This is not something I would like to share on social media because it involves family members. He’s my first cousin, in fact. My mother took him in when they were in need.

His father died at an early age. He was a teenager when he started living with us. He was my brother’s age, so they were very close.

The first incident happened when I was five. We were playing a game, him, me and my other female cousin. He would hide a small token in a room and ask the me to find it while he “played” with my cousin in the other room. When he was done with her, he asked us to switch. She went to the other room and he asked me to lie next to him.

He started touching my vagina and asked me “what it this?” he just kept on touching and asking the question over and over again.

The second time it happened, I was alone with him in our house. I was seven. I came home from school and took my afternoon nap. When I woke up, he was just there. He asked me if I wanted to play a game and if I win, I will win a prize.

He asked me to stand at the end of the room while holding a bag. He wanted me to walk across the room and we will cross paths. “Simple, right?” he said. I just wanted the prize, so I agreed. When we fake bumped to each other, he touched my vagina and squeezed my small private part in his big hand. We did it for a few more times. Nothing felt wrong at that time.

My uncle, who happened to be my godfather as well, kept on asking me if he could take me out for lunch alone. He said it was his gift since he missed a lot of my birthdays. I kept making excuses and saying no. it didn’t feel right. Was that messed up? I wonder.

It was only after a few years later that I realized what it truly meant, how messed up the whole thing was. I can’t say that it messed up things for me. I don’t really have a sob story to tell how it ruined me, because I think it didn’t. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing, or maybe I am messed up too. I don’t shy away from guys. I don’t shy away from their touch. Whenever I grapple with guys in judo training, it didn’t make me feel uncomfortable. I guess I am doing fine, despite what happened.

But whenever that whole family is together, I try to stay as far away as possible from him. I avoid being in the same room with him and whenever he spends the night, I lock my door.

I can’t help but wonder sometimes if what I feel, the uneasiness with him is justified. It happened a long time ago, and it was too late when I realized what really happened, what it really meant. He did the same thing to my cousin and she’s fine with him. I wonder if she remembers. I wonder if he remembers what he did to me.

 

He Will Always Be Fourteen

Young boy, I wish your life was taken from you from the first stab. I pray that you didn’t feel the other thirty merciless wounds on your young, frail body. I only hope they taped your head after your life was taken. I wish you didn’t have to fight for your breath.

I can only wish you didn’t have to die a painful death.

I hope you didn’t suffer long. I could only hope. Because you were alone in the hands of merciless monsters. You were probably too young to understand, yet it happened to you.

And when I look at your picture, a young wounded body, head covered in tape, many faces replaces yours. Familiar faces, faces I wish I would never see on such picture.

I do not know you, and you do not know me. But in the gruesome way you went, you touched many. In the closing of your eyes, you opened many others.

Say his name. Say his name out loud and let it not be forgotten.

His name is Reynaldo de Guzman
He was a boy from Cainta, Rizal.
Yesterday, his body was found at Nueva, Ecija, with 31 stab wounds
He was fourteen years old.

He will always be fourteen.

http://cnnphilippines.com/news/2017/09/06/Reynaldo-De-Guzman-dead.html

Shine

You want to turn the heads of the many

Have your own spotlight when you walk in

Hush the room with your ways

And all the boys down on their knees

 

You’re probably tired of being invisible

Set to the sidelines and ignored

You watch from the shadows and watch them sway

Blending into the background and forgotten

 

You wish to be just like her, so you eat less

And run until nothing is left

Still, you can’t get your size down to two

And the spotlight is still not on you

 

There are so many things you want to change

Your hair, your weight, and your face

You don’t see how beautiful you are

I wish you can see through my eyes

 

The twinkle in your hair

The smile that reaches your eyes

The blush on your cheeks when you’re shy

Oh darling , don’t be shy

 

And when you finally open your eyes

You want to be loved, not admired

You don’t need all the boys after you

Choose the one who will give his heart to you

 

And soon, my sweet, you’ll realize

You’re the only who who can turn on your light

And when you finally see how beautiful you are

You’ll shine like the stars in sky

I Am Not Yet Done, Not Today

I have thought a lot about it. I thought about simply dropping everything and simply not give single damn. Caring too much can be so burdensome.

I thought about simply closing my doors, locking and staying in my house for a week. I thought about cutting my lines, turning off my phone and simply live in solitude for a while. Maybe I’ll gain a different appreciation of the world outside.

I thought about buying a ticket, flying to a place, anywhere, where nobody knows my name. Perhaps there I can find a fresh start. Perhaps I can finally leave everything behind.

I thought about forgetting a lot of things in my life. I thought about cutting ties with a lot of people. I thought about ending everything sometimes. And sometimes, I can’t even tell why.

There’s a darkness in me, perhaps in all of us, that we cannot simply explain. Dark thoughts that looms over our heads, some can silence it, some listen and act on it.

I’m still trying to save myself. I am trying. I am trying to make something good out of this pain and sorrow. Don’t call the lines just yet. I am not done fighting.

Kian Didn’t Have to Die

Can you imagine his confusion when  men in uniform came rushing in? He was alone, unarmed and vulnerable.

Can you imagine how he felt, when they handed him the gun? Can you feel it? The fast beating of his heart? The cold feeling of fear taking over? Can you imagine his freezing realization of helplessness? The tears that ran down his youth, begging for his life?

Can you imagine his fear when they told him to take the gun, run and start shooting?

Can you imagine how he  felt when he realized he was about to get killed?

Can you imagine? Can you imagine if this was your son? Your brother? Your friend? Your neighbor? Can you feel it? Can you feel the pain of knowing an innocent life was taken? Can you feel that gut wrenching pain of seeing their lifeless body being dragged like a slaughtered pig? You  birthed him, loved him, fed him, worked to raise him and he was taken away unjustly.

Was it worth it? Was it necessary for him to die? Why must he die? Why did you take away a life of a seventeen year old?

He was a boy and they killed him like an animal.

Kian Lloyd Delos Santos did not deserve any of this.

http://cnnphilippines.com/news/2017/08/18/Kian-Loyd-Delos-Santos-war-on-drugs-Caloocan-police-operations.html